Hearing Impairment is my Superpower

Own your loss, and be open about it with other people. Help others understand what they need to do to help you cope.

Did you know that a lot of people are REALLY lousy communicators? No, it’s true! I’m sorry to break it to you. I, on the other hand have a superpower—hearing impairment. Continue reading “Hearing Impairment is my Superpower”

Not #metoo

Am I just lucky? Am I a good communicator who manages partner expectations? …Or am I dumb and naive? Still, I don’t wait to be turned into a victim, nor do I try to turn my partners into demons.

I’m not sure what to make of the #metoo movement. I write some things in private logs, but I’ll share a little snippet here because it’s relevant. I once had a part-time job at a renaissance festival from age 18-22. I have a lot of stories and fond memories from that place, and I hope to share them with you sometime. However, I will say this about the sexual climate at fest: Continue reading “Not #metoo”

Where Ideas Go to Die

Acknowledge the idea, and then let it go.

So many ideas, so little time. Sometimes my mind feels awhirl with ideas of things I want to do, blog posts I want to write, or cool projects that would be fun to work on. I only have 168 hours in a week though, and I thought that one way I could ease my mind and at least acknowledge my ideas is to just write them down and move on. Hence, this post–where ideas go to die.

Ahh… I feel better already. Continue reading “Where Ideas Go to Die”

“…We want the same things…”

—Susanne Barakat

“If we were to peel away all of our layers of fear and hatred, and peel them back until we’re able to see eye-to-eye, and recognize that we’re actually all the same. We want the same things; we want to be loved, we want to belong, we want to live our lives and provide for our children. The only things that actually matter are kindness, compassion and love. If we could peel away our layers, and just get down to the one where we see eye-to-eye—then I think we’d have a very different world.” Continue reading ““…We want the same things…””

Talking to Strangers at Parties

Avoiding long awkward silences one question at a time.

I suck at talking to strangers. I used to better at it in my dating days, and when I worked for a digital marketing agency where we were expected to attend networking events and connect with people. You see, I’m an introvert, and somewhat socially awkward. I am hyper-aware of what other people might think of me, so sometimes I just don’t know what to say for fear of sounding stupid. To cope, I generally avoid one-on-one conversations with strangers at parties. When I’m in a group, I pray that someone else does all the talking, so I can just interject little tid-bits here and there. I don’t think I am alone in this; lots of people can relate. Right? Continue reading “Talking to Strangers at Parties”

Conversations!

Have we all forgotten our humanity? Oh. Of course not–because humans also LOVE drama.

There’s a guy at the renaissance festival that runs a puppet stand for a character named “Lord Felton”. He sometimes roams the festival and you can see him and his puppet together, but other times, he parks himself behind a black curtain in a little booth and he (Lord Felton) hawks, “Cooooooo-nversations!” Kids go up to the booth to talk to the puppet, but are often at a loss at what to say to him. Next to him is a little roulette wheel with various topics written in chalk on it. Spin the wheel and off they go! Conversations last anywhere from 30 seconds to a few minutes. He’s one of my favorite characters at the festival, and he’s really fun to watch. Continue reading “Conversations!”